This week is the first real week of nice weather.
I really love spring and summer, especially now that we live in a state where we experience snow and freezing temps every year. But now, I can hang up my ferns without fear of having to take them in, and I don’t have to worry about the frost killing my wildflower garden.
If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram (which you can do at the top of this page) you know that my favorite spot right now is my back porch. At the beginning of spring, my husband and I picked out camping chairs at Wal-Mart and they are absolutely perfect for relaxing in with a steaming cup of coffee. If it’s too hot, I just add ice cubes!
Anyway, there I was yesterday, expecting to sit in my chair with my coffee, soaking up some rays while the cool breeze kept me from getting too hot. But it was SO hot already that morning that I had to drag my chair over to the shady part of the porch. I had run out of coffee, so I was drinking water. No breeze. Even the birds seemed a little less chirpy.
Don’t get me wrong.
I was still loving the fresh air and natural light, but it was pretty toasty. And then the thought occurred to me.
I wish we had a pool.
It wasn’t a passing thought, either. I mean, that’s all I could think about while I was sitting on our porch! How cool the water would feel on my feet, how refreshing it would be to wake up early before everyone else and take a dip. I could sit on the edge and dangle my toes in whenever I wanted.
I was really getting into this.
Our kids could learn to swim in it. We could even use it for ministry by having people over to use it. We could grill out by it, and have date nights by it…a pool would add to our quality of life.
Before I knew it, my thought had evolved to:
We need a pool.
Then I thought of all the reasons it wouldn’t work out. First of all, we’re renting. Second, who’s got extra money for that with a baby on the way? Third…and on and on I let myself think. Just in the span of a few minutes of careless thought,
I went from happily enjoying what God had blessed me with, to actually resenting it!
Ever been there?
Thankfully, the Holy Spirit pricked my heart by reminding me of a lesson my husband preached just a couple of weeks before. He had been talking to the teenagers in our youth group about sin and its crooked deception. Coveting was one of the sins he had mentioned, and during that lesson I learned that coveting isn’t wanting something so much that you sin to get it. That’s what I always thought that coveting was. But no, to covet is to wish for something you don’t have. Period. It’s a sin because you are desiring something that God has not given you.
Elisabeth Elliot said,
God has promised to supply all our needs. What we don’t have now, we don’t need now.
What a convicting statement! That’s kind of a summary of my life verse, Psalm 84:11. The end of it says, “…no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.”
As I sat there in that blue camping chair, I cringed at how ungrateful my thoughts must have sounded to God. I began to think of all the things that I have that I don’t need. Let me tell you, there is quite a list!Find out how to replace ungodly thoughts, with godly, biblical ones! #thrivinginwomanhood Click To Tweet
Can I share with you what God taught me in the time we spent together that morning?
I knew I needed to change the way had allowed those ungodly thoughts to dominate my mind for those moments. Have you ever had those times that you wish for something in your life to be different, for something to stop, or to start? Maybe it’s a material possession like my wanting a pool, or maybe it’s a life circumstance or a painful trial.
Whatever it is, we must CHOOSE to have godly, biblical thoughts about it.
Because our thoughts merely point out what we actually believe. In those few moments, my deceitful heart decided to believe that what God had given me was not enough. God was not good because we didn’t have a pool.
Would I have ever said that out loud? No, of course not. But by allowing my mind to fill with covetous thoughts, that’s exactly what my heart was saying.
So first, I had to remind myself that God is only, ever, always good.
Then, I had to ask God to make me think like He does.
The Scripture passage I thought of was Philippians 2, where Paul tells the Philippian church,
Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus…
The rest of the chapter talks about how Jesus was not ever concerned about Himself, even though, as the King of Kings, He had every right and reason to be.
No, Jesus only concerned Himself with serving God by serving others. It’s so easy for me to get caught up with what’s going on in my life, and in the lives of my family, instead of being interested, invested, and involved in the lives of my church family and the unsaved people that I interact with often.
Every day I must ask God to conform my thinking to be like His, because that takes supernatural power!
So how do we thrive the Bible way in this area of our womanhood?
When you find yourself wishing for cuter clothes, a better house, a POOL, or just more money, don’t let your mind dwell on those ungodly, unbiblical thoughts. Instead, replace them with godly, biblical thoughts.
Make a list of all the things you have that you don’t need. Ask God to help you to change your thoughts through the power of His Word. Purpose to speak out your thankfulness so your kids and husband hear you giving God thanks for His blessing, and demonstrating a grateful heart. Tape this verse to your kitchen window so you can read it while you do dishes:
Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Philippians 2:4
Pretty soon, you’ll have it memorized! Sweet sisters, there is so much more that God says about being contented and thankful. If this is a rough edge you think you should work on polishing (which I think so, in my own life) would you consider studying this book? It is not specifically about contentment or cultivating a grateful heart, but there is so much truth in it about Who God is. It packs a walloping punch! Because it’s so full of Bible, I use this book often to help me get my thinking back on track.
Let’s work on this area of our womanhood together! Please, tell me about what God is teaching you. I would be so honored to hear from you!