That is the word I would use to describe this week. Every single day was jammed, PACKED with church activities and responsibilities, regular daily chores like cleaning and organizing, and business building research and brainstorming. Every day was full.
You have had those days and weeks, too. You’ve probably even experienced months long seasons of being busy. So I know you understand.
I wish I could say I handled it all with grace and composure.
But the truth is, some days I allowed my emotions to run the show and I became anxious, stressed out, and just plain cranky. Pregnancy hormones don’t help, but God does not give us preggo ladies a cop out when it comes to dealing with life in a biblical, Christlike manner.
I Corinthians 10:31 doesn’t say, Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. Unless you’re pregnant, then you can act like an entitled child because, after all, you’re growing a human.
I think we tend to rationalize our wrong reactions to pressure in our lives based on our unique circumstances. Maybe you’re pregnant too. You could be going through menopause, or dealing with hard home life issues, or you’re about to get married. Or maybe you just had a baby and you have no idea what day it even is. No, God doesn’t give us a cop out.Don't rationalize your wrong reaction based on your unique circumstance. Manage your busy life… Click To Tweet
But He does give us more grace.
There was one day this week that I could not even focus enough to sit down and read my Bible. I had allowed my heart to become so anxious, I could not seem to quiet it. Time with God was what I desperately needed, and I couldn’t even seem to muster that!
All I could do was listen to Christy Galkin sing “In My Weakness.” Here are some of the lyrics:
When failures in my human strength have weakened all my pride,
When ruined hopes and fallen dreams have crumbled me inside:
It’s there by faith I finally see, the strength of Jesus Christ.
His victory is real in me when weakness fills my life.
In my weakness, He is strong.
In my need He leads me on.
When I come to the end of all I am, and I place my trust in Him, that’s when His strength begins: In my weakness.
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Have you ever been there? You just feel SO completely overwhelmed, so discouraged, so emotional, so distracted and tired that you just…can’t? It’s like you’ve lost control and you don’t know how to get it back.
It is very true that when we are in a busy season of life, we can get to that point almost without realizing it. We don’t notice that we’ve put our time with Jesus on the back burner, our prayers have become shorter, and our minds have become less focused on Christ and more focused on duties and responsibilities.
When we are busy, what we really need is a refreshing dose of God’s renewing Word. We need to call on Him and ask Him for His grace. Hebrews 4:16 says,
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
What an awesome God we serve, Who acknowledges our needs! And He doesn’t just acknowledge them, but He also provides a way to meet those needs in the only way that will forever help—with Himself.
One other verse that really encouraged me this week was from Isaiah 50. Verse four says,
The Lord GOD hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary: he wakeneth morning by morning, he wakeneth mine ear to hear as the learned.
That’s Jesus talking. He knows just what to say to our weary hearts, if we just take the time to listen to Him!
So how do we THRIVE in our womanhood the Bible way when we are so BUSY?
Don’t skimp on your time with Jesus.
It’s never worth it! A couple of times this week, I literally had no time (probably my fault and lack of planning ahead) to sit down and read and study. So I looked up a pastor that I trust and listened to a sermon. It was only 25 minutes long, but so refreshing! It’s not ideal to be “spoonfed” the Bible every day, since you only get better at studying and learning with practice. But on those super busy days, Sermon Audio and Sermon.Net are absolutely wonderful resources.
Do make time to pray.
Nobody can pray for you. You have to make the time to talk to Jesus yourself. It doesn’t have to be twenty minutes long! But do set aside some time specifically for you and the Lord to talk. Tell Him how busy you are, what threatens to overwhelm you. Ask Him for His sufficient grace to help you. You just watch. Instead of the busy time being full of stress, panic, irritations, frustrations, and tears, you will learn and grow in your faith as you rest in and rely on His strength.
There are those who take minimalistic principles and make it their religion. I am not on that end of the spectrum by any means. I’m more of a country, buy a “live simply” sign at Hobby Lobby kind of girl. But I do think an important skill to develop is learning to say no, when to delegate, and when to scale back. If you’re looking ahead at a busy week, and you believe that what needs to get done is truly too much for you to take on, do what you can to lighten the load a bit.
*Side note: I am not advocating that you shirk your responsibilities or shrug them off on others simply because you haven’t learned to plan well or you don’t use your time wisely. Do what you can with what you have, and allow God to meet your need to accomplish the rest: whether that be through more grace, a helping hand, or a simple “not right now.”
Refuse to compare.
Can I get an amen?! Not everyone has the same metabolism, same life circumstances, same priorities, same health, etc. So whether you’re on the end of being able to do less than someone, or being able to do more, refuse to compare. This is where I got tripped up this week. I am nine months pregnant. I can’t do as much as I could last summer. That’s the simple fact of the matter. But in my pride (yes, pride) I tried to keep up with what I thought would be considered “normal.” But I couldn’t do it!
And ya know what? That’s humbling. When you CAN’T. When I couldn’t even read my Bible because I was so exhausted and anxious—that was humbling. It caused me to drop to my knees, admit my weakness to God, and ask for His help. It also called for admitting my weakness to others by asking for physical help like, “Would you wash these dishes for me?” or “Do you mind reaching that?” Sounds silly now, but I’m so thankful for God’s sufficient grace that saw me through!
So that’s it. When you’re so busy that you just can’t even, make these four things a priority: Spend time with God. Talk to Him. Cut back where you can. And refuse to compare.
I know you all have experienced busy seasons of life, too! Please, share what God has taught you and what practical tips you have learned along the way in the comments below!
p.s. Here is one more recommendation! If balancing your busy life is a struggle in your life, Elizabeth George’s book, Life Management for Busy Women is a great read to consider!